7 Remedies to Stop Overthinking
Your thoughts have the power to manifest into reality; hence the saying, ‘thoughts become things.’ We are gifted with the ability to think, but the problem arises when overthinking gets involved in the picture.
Overthinking has been defined as “to think about something too much or for too long.” The fact that we can contemplate and evaluate a situation before a confident decision can be reached is a blessing, but when you are not able to turn off a nagging thought, that’s when it becomes a problem. This can be either caused by a new stressful event or just past experiences you are not able to let go of. The ‘could haves’ and ‘should haves’ are all you think about, and at the end of the day, you are left fatigued, with a zero to none self-esteem.
This article will provide you some useful insights into the different ways that can be adopted to stop overthinking and eventually overcome stress and anxiety
Why do I overthink?
First and foremost, you need to ask yourself the question, why do I overthink? Is it because you are continually telling yourself that this is just the kind of person you are hence you are bound to act this way. If this is the case, then you need to change the words that you are feeding yourself. Constantly reminding your-self that you are a worrier type of a person and hence are bound to be overthinking more than others will lead you to be that same person. On the other hand, if you feed yourself more positive phrases and words of affirmation like, ‘I can control my thoughts,’ or ‘I am stronger than my emotions’ will undoubtedly have the opposite effect. It will help you to stop overthinking unnecessarily.
Learn to be okay with your past
People who overthink tend to spend most of their time in the past. They spend their precious energy on thinking of all the ways that an event could have played out. This needs to stop. You need to realize that the things that happened in the past cannot be changed now. No matter how many days you spent thinking about it. Everyone makes a mistake; that’s what being a human being is about. So remember it is okay to make them, we need to focus on how we can learn from them to better our future. The future is in our hands, and the past is not, so let us plan for tomorrow instead of staying in yesterday.
Live in the moment
This is one of the best ways of stopping overthinking. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in either thinking about the past or worrying about the future, and we forget the present. So take a deep breath, understand where you are at the moment, take in what you are seeing, what you are hearing, and count your blessings. It will take a conscious effort, but once you start, you will begin to appreciate your today. Joining yoga classes or even meditating for 5 minutes each day can help with the process of living in the moment. It will help you to overcome anxiety and to overcome the stress that is associated with the overthinking process.
Control of emotions
Taking full control over your emotions helps you a lot in dealing with overthinking. As explained earlier, you should try to live in the moment, but at the same time, you do not have to neglect your emotions completely. Whatever you are feeling at the moment, try to reach the root cause of the problem. Instead of thinking why something had to happen to you, consider why it had so much effect on you and what you can do in the future to deal with it in a better way. Explore what causes you distress and what makes you think a lot and why. If you know “why” of your problem, you can come up with strategies that would help you suffer less.
Shift your emphasis to the solution
Once you know the causative agent of your problem, the next step would be either to get it out of your system or to learn ways to live with it or avoid it. For example, if you overthink over people and their behavior with you, then firstly, you need to know how much essential and considerate that person is to you. Maybe you can communicate your problems with the concerned person, and that person might change his/her attitude towards you. On the other hand, if it’s a friend, and he/she only causing you to distress then you need to re-think your friendship. Maybe give the association a little break if that helps. If your overthinking is due to workplace pressure, then if it is possible, try to find yourself another job. These are significant decisions, but if you want to do something for yourself, you have to take the risk. You might find yourself in a better place if you take the risk, a happier and more peaceful place both for your mind and your soul.
Fear and intuition
If you are an over-thinker, you should know the difference between fear and intuition. Sometimes it so happens that you abandon doing something because the fear of making mistakes is so intense that it looks more comfortable not to do it. This is not healthy. Fearing something might go wrong is another thing, but not taking the risk of making a decision just because your over-thinker mind would not let you do it is another thing. Thinking about the consequences of your choices is a healthy phenomenon and always looks at the pros and cons before doing anything, but then again, think but don’t overthink!
The right question
Overthinking lefts you miserable gives you anxiety, and there are times that you start questioning yourself for things that are not under your control. Don’t be too hard on yourself, and do not belittle yourself by overthinking. Do not ask yourself questions like, “why am I like this?” “They probably hate me for doing this?” etc. Always try to ask yourself questions that would help you in finding the solutions. Ask yourself, “why I always turn out to be the villain when I am only doing the right thing?”. Once you know where the problem lies and what you should do, you are halfway there to finding the solution.